Apologzing in a sincere and heartfelt way makes all the difference
Saying you are sorry for something that you have said and done when done in the right way help to heal the problem that your actions caused. When done with a sincere heart and in a way and time that helps to reinforce what is coming out of your mouth.
Apologizing just for the sake of it can have the total opposite effect as if not done in the right way at the right time your apology can and will come across as a half hearted attempt to heal the situation.
So which way do you want to go about saying "you are sorry" to the person who you love and cherish but for what ever reason have hurt or offended?
On this page and indeed on the other pages of this site you can find advice helpful pointers and tips to get back your loved one and rebuild your relationship with that person.
So without further ado here is some helpful ways to say it and mean it!
One of the obvious ways to apologize and mean it has got to be not making the same mistake again and again. Obviously your partner will quickly pick up on the fact that you have "been here before" and it will start to wear a bit thin. They will get sick of hearing it and therefore snub your attempts no matter how strongly you try. If you really mean it when you have apologized then you will go out of your way and make sure that you don't go down the same path again. As the famous quotes says "actions speak louder than words".
When making the apology it is a good idea to offer them a good reason why what ever it was happened. Showing them that you realised what it was and show them you care enough to tell them this will go a long way for your apology to have the desired effect. People sometimes apologize too quickly when they see someone is upset with them, this just won't get you back into your partners good books. All this would show is that you are just trying to keep the piece and are not really that interested in their problem.
For your partner to really appreciate and feel like being on the way to mending your relationship the apology should be done face to face. This will again help to show them that you are caring enough about it and understand why they are upset. Meeting them face to face to have a sincere talk about the issue will reinforce their belief that you are truly sorry for your actions. Sending them a text message on your mobile phone or email. Would not make them feel as though you really mean the apology and they will always have that niggling doubt that you didn't really mean it.
A big no no that a lot of people make is to start trying to push some of the blame on to the other person, turning and manipulating the situation around will not work. You need to apologise for your actions in the incident even if you feel they were partly to blame for it. When someone is already in a mood with you is not really the best time to start pointing out their faults to them. Doing it this way will help to reinforce the whole act of saying you are sorry and to reinforce the apology in their mind.
A sincere apology will have to include telling to other person which of your actions were wrong and how you are going to make sure that the same situation doesn't happen again. In doing this you are showing them that you have obviously given it some thought and have started to come up with ideas to stop the incident happening again.
Putting all of the above in to practice and having planned out the best apology in the world will not accomplish anything if the timing is wrong. This is probably one of the most vital parts of sincerely saying you are sorry. If you leave it too long to apologize then it may come across as a afterthought and you really don't think that you have done anything making the apology appear insincere. Doing it to soon and it may get overlooked and be seen as a knee jerk reaction. Or they may not even hear the apology due to them being too angry. I can not tell you exactly what length of time to leave it as everyone is different and every situation is also.
Using the above tips and advice should allow you to apologize in a sincere manner after all that is what you want isn't it? To show someone that you want to fix your mistakes and you are prepared to sit down with them and name them all is a good way to get started with the process. A truly sincere apology will show the other party that you have thought about the issues/problems and that you have started to realise and work out a solid foundation for changing your actions.
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